FriendShop..!! ??
Friendshop,a place where people can go and pick up friends to satisfy a specification.Where people can get a friend to hang out with, check if they are compatible and if they are not then no fuss you always have the exchange scheme. If you do end up liking a friend you can always buy it.Once bought , u can either provide it with some occasional attention and shove it into a cupboard and or take "it" with you all over and show it off to everyone.If anytime you get angry (due to innumerous reasons)..then throw it(friend) away and let out all your anger on it and when you are sad and are in desperate need of a friend then go around searching for where you threw it the last time you got angry and it will still be there in the exact same location........ but.......
Is there anything like it(Friendshop)??..unfortunately the answer is a BIG NO and neither is a friend an "it".Most often than not a friend is a he or a she,who can hardly be obtained to specification .Very often he/she actually ends up having something called a heart and somthing called feelings within it.So if you ever hang out with him/her and decide that you both are not compatible then
ending the relationship(friendship) is not as easy as an exchange or return scheme . If you provide him/her with a bare minimum attention then he/she may not be interested in giving you more than that him(her)self .If you let out all your anger on him/her, well he/she will accept it as long as you are abel to make it up to him/her quickly coz if it takes a really long time for you to look for them , u will never find them in the place you left them last..NEVER ....because they would have moved on and reached a distance that you may not be abel to cover...
After reading all what I have written , I am sure everyone thinks( and knows for a fact because everyone has friends) that handling friendship is a tall order and yes it is.It is even more difficult than it sounds but fortunately GOD has been amazingly clever in proving us with a few tools...some sense ...a conscience ...a brain....and a heart .A conscience that will tell us exactly how much of what we did was right or wrong!.A heart that will help us understand how others feel if put in the same position !!! Some "sense" that will prevent us from doing or saying something stupid and if infact we end up doin something impulsively, A brain that will help us clearly think what should be done to set things right...
Well does what i just wrote sound like some kind of a business plan ???.It does because it is one.To handle every relationship(in this case friendship) you need a plan.You need to have a way to handle things.You need a way to do or set things right and all i have proposed is just a few things every single person does possess to some extent and things that will always come to our assistance and Assistance we will need, all of it that we can get,because Making friends is easy ,Making it last isnt!!!
" Friendship is a two player game ,which can get boring if you have to play both sides "
Is there anything like it(Friendshop)??..unfortunately the answer is a BIG NO and neither is a friend an "it".Most often than not a friend is a he or a she,who can hardly be obtained to specification .Very often he/she actually ends up having something called a heart and somthing called feelings within it.So if you ever hang out with him/her and decide that you both are not compatible then
ending the relationship(friendship) is not as easy as an exchange or return scheme . If you provide him/her with a bare minimum attention then he/she may not be interested in giving you more than that him(her)self .If you let out all your anger on him/her, well he/she will accept it as long as you are abel to make it up to him/her quickly coz if it takes a really long time for you to look for them , u will never find them in the place you left them last..NEVER ....because they would have moved on and reached a distance that you may not be abel to cover...
After reading all what I have written , I am sure everyone thinks( and knows for a fact because everyone has friends) that handling friendship is a tall order and yes it is.It is even more difficult than it sounds but fortunately GOD has been amazingly clever in proving us with a few tools...some sense ...a conscience ...a brain....and a heart .A conscience that will tell us exactly how much of what we did was right or wrong!.A heart that will help us understand how others feel if put in the same position !!! Some "sense" that will prevent us from doing or saying something stupid and if infact we end up doin something impulsively, A brain that will help us clearly think what should be done to set things right...
Well does what i just wrote sound like some kind of a business plan ???.It does because it is one.To handle every relationship(in this case friendship) you need a plan.You need to have a way to handle things.You need a way to do or set things right and all i have proposed is just a few things every single person does possess to some extent and things that will always come to our assistance and Assistance we will need, all of it that we can get,because Making friends is easy ,Making it last isnt!!!
" Friendship is a two player game ,which can get boring if you have to play both sides "
posted by kanch | 7:35 AM
4 Comments:
U never know when someone u know has become ur friend. Say, u r introduced to someone new - after some time, u may feel he/she has become a close friend - but u may never know for how long u had been calling him/her ur friend. Neither can u answer why he/she became ur friend (no specifications are possible)
one of the nicely written posts on friendship i have read in the recent past...well quite true about the lasting part..and differences do crop up especially in the long term relationships...but well coming out through such differences is the challenge a true friend would always cherish to win...cheers :)
The word specification has been used appropriately to the describe the friendship boundary and thats an important measure
good thoughts ...
and expressed nicley....
-->Madhusudhan Rajagopalan
Making friends is easy, Making it last isnt!!!
Well said Kanch...people sometimes take their friends for granted...it seems to be human nature...I feel this is the root cause of all problems...totally agree that making and keeping friends (for life) requires some effort, but also feel that after a point, this should come naturally.
My policy is that if it takes up too much time and effort and you don't see the same being reciprocated it simply is not worth it..."Playing both sides"( Well put [:)] ) never works...its just too much work...Friends should be able to talk out any and every problem and both be equally committed to fix it.
Another nice post Kanch, gud title too - Friendshop! LOL :)
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