Is honesty in friendship overrated??
Sorry for interrupting my story.. will definitely finish that. in the meanwhile this question popped up in my head and i decided to get people's opinion on it.
How honest will you be ?? how honest do you expect your friends to be??
From my side i would not expect them to tell me everything but they had something to say to me say i expect them to come out and say it, if they have to ask me something id expect them to just ask, if they were angry with me..I'd rather they take it out on me ( maybe ill feel bad but in the end id love the fact that they were honest)... but maybe what i expect is a little too much...i probably don't follow what i preach all the time either...
Please do post your opinions.
PS: to all the people who want to call me immediately and ask me if anything is wrong.. nothing is.. i wanted to know what people think
How honest will you be ?? how honest do you expect your friends to be??
From my side i would not expect them to tell me everything but they had something to say to me say i expect them to come out and say it, if they have to ask me something id expect them to just ask, if they were angry with me..I'd rather they take it out on me ( maybe ill feel bad but in the end id love the fact that they were honest)... but maybe what i expect is a little too much...i probably don't follow what i preach all the time either...
Please do post your opinions.
PS: to all the people who want to call me immediately and ask me if anything is wrong.. nothing is.. i wanted to know what people think
posted by kanch | 2:47 AM
12 Comments:
An incomplete blog i must say....
hmmm..u can't expect ur friend to share everthyn with u..itz upto them..it depends how much close friends u both are..if he/she is so close to u,defientely they may share all with u..but based on my personal excperience i would say..dont expect much from anyone if he/she is other than ur blood realtion.
Like i told you earlier, the honesty depends on the situation. If the person doesn't wanna hear that i wouldn't say it. I never really believed in being brutally honest and all... And i disagree with Pradeep. A friend would come to your rescue any day and not a blood relation unless its your parents! And Kanch the last line was an unnecessary dig :)
I dont believe in full honesty,although would like to be one... I dont mind my friends being a off line, if they feel like...After all, they do what they think will keep them happy... So, no big issues there.... i am not totally honest with my friends.. i think i ll rather be a little dishonest than being totally honest at the cost of sounding rude and hurting... I agree with all the good points of kanchana n vedavidya...
hey veda but don't you think its better to tell your best friend you are angry/pissed/irritated at them rather than going to another friend and semi " bitching of sorts " about it.
kartik on what basis do you call it incomplete???
hmm..so does anyone here has a friend who is honest to u all the time?...to be frank m nt to ma frndz at times..
Bitching is too strong a word kanch... You do that about people u do not know! And even there thats too strong a word.You might feel bad about somethin a friend did but by saying it to her you are gonna make her/him feel worse especially when you know its not intentional. I wouldn't do that.
hey.. veda i know bitching is too strong a word.. thats why i used the word " semi bitching"
friends need not necessarily share everythng but theres alwez a saying that whatever friends share, it must be true. i strongly believe that. Sometimes, it can backfire if one is honest too. It might just result in a lot of unnecessary disputes.
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Here's my take: Complete honesty in friendship is a mirage, and it is foolish to expect it.
A good friend knows exactly what to say, what to hold back and at times, say something that is not true....as Veda put it, the situation might demand it.
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